My apprehension about the ”swirl” movement

As of recently, there has been a propaganda in the media to promote interracial unions between those of African descent and those of Caucasian and other non Black races. Such promotion of miscegenation has many people apprehensive about it’s effect on the livelihood of Black women’s psyche and livelihood. While I am seeing more interracial couplings becoming more represented in the media and in real life, I don’t see dating and marrying a White man as the end to be all. Though I am not against interracial dating and marriage, I believe that much of the rhetoric behind the so called ”swirl movement” is detrimental to the livelihood and psyche of Black women living in the West.

The media depicts women of African descent to be loud, unattractive, overweight, aggressive, perpetually single and having bad attitudes. Many articles written online and subliminal and overt messages from television ads, movies and television shows how undesirable Black women supposedly are. So undesirable that their own men don’t want them. Unfortunately, many Black men are colorist, misogynist and despise Black women to the point that they have also played a role in promoting negative anti Black woman stereotypes. Many Black girls and women have stories to tell about how many Black men express their preference for mixed race women and non Black women while disparaging their own female counterparts. It has gotten so widespread that a segment of Black men have outlets on YouTube and other social media outlets to express their disdain for Black women’s obesity, fake hair, bad attitudes and behavior.  Men like Tommy Sotomayor are the leading progenitors of anti Black woman media propaganda. Even Black orientated shows and movies contain colorist messages and actions in it; example: the 1990s TV show, Martin. Many Black women especially Black American women have taken note and expressed their disgust of the ongoing slander against them from Black men. As a result, many Black American have decided to open up their dating options to include non Black men due to frustration of denigration from their own male counterparts.

Anti Black woman hater, Tommy Sotomayor, who has various YouTube channels bashing Black women.


An image of an interracial coupling of a Black man and White woman


Black woman White man coupling.

Black American women are one of the least likely groups of people to date and marry interracially. The majority of Black American women prefer to date and marry Black American men and have children of African descent that reflects their image. Black American men are twice as likely to marry outside of their race than Black American women. But things are starting to change. Slowly, more Black American women are opening their options to include non Black men. I am seeing more American Black women being seen in public with White men and non Black men of other races. On the other hand, many Black women, who reside in Canada and the United Kingdom(Great Britain), are much more willing and open to dating and marrying non Black men than their American counterparts. In fact, majority of the Black women in Canada and the UK tend to be recent immigrants from the Caribbean, Latin America and Africa. The countries and societies in these countries lack the same racial and social divide and convention that America has so there is less apprehension on these women’s parts. In fact, 35% of Afro British women of Caribbean heritage are with White men in Britain as opposed to 12% of American Black women that are married to non Black men. The cultural and regional differences between American Black women and other Black women residing in other Western countries play a role in how they approach interracial dating and marriage. And this plays a huge role in why interracial dating and marriage is much higher for non African American Black women than it is for African American women.

What does your apprehension about this so called swirl movement comes from?

My apprehension about the ”swirl movement” comes from my own experiences and hang ups regarding my interactions with men. I didn’t have much luck attracting Black men due to the fact that my phenotype was too ”Negroid” for their tastes and my interests in Rock music was also a turn off. I grew up hearing Black boys my age express their disdain for Black women and ”preference” for non Black women. Everywhere, I turned I saw media depictions of Black women’s undesirability and unattractive. It made me so sad to see that even my own male counterparts didn’t find me attractive so I decided to seek validation from non Black men for my beauty.  Though I had always been attracted to White and non Black men, I knew that it was time to really consider them as a dating option regardless of what anyone thought. I tried to date a White American seriously, but it usually ended up with them fetishizing me and not progressing into a relationship. Or they expressed desire not to date a Black women. Such experiences also influence my concerns about other Black women’s idealizing interracial relationships as a panacea for her low self esteem. I know all too well how it is like to be rejected on the basis of my skin color and not being seen as worthy. I used to fetishize interracial relationships and believe that it will make me be seen as worthy and desirable in society. Then, I realized that it is best that I find love and happiness within before I ever start to find a mate. How can you expect someone to love one when you don’t love yourself? To this day, I still struggle with feelings of inadequacy, but I am working on these issues to better myself.

My major concern is the fact that Black American women will romanticize White American men as these knights in shining armor. In reality,  the same media that promotes negative imagery of Black women was created and is sustained by White men. The casting couches in Hollywood TV, movie and commercial sets are usually White men and White women. These same people promote White women and other non Black women ahead of Black women on the social and beauty hierarchy. The same White men that enslaved and raped my female foremothers and presented her as the most undesirable woman on the planet. The same White man that created the system of racism, sexism and colorism to sustain White supremacy and keep all of the wealth and resources in their hands. In fact, the effects of colonization and European imperialism can still be felt through the social inequalities in Black communities across the nation.  He elevates White women to the image of beauty because he cherishes his image as the most beautiful and powerful on the planet. And even if a White American man does date and marry a Black woman, his loyalty is still to his race first and foremost. The marriage numbers between White American men and Black American are despondently low. According to the 2010 census, only one hundred and sixty eight thousand White men are married to Black women. Such marriages make up only 0.3% of the population of White male population married couples. These numbers very low and shows that White American men and Black American women aren’t marrying each other in substantial numbers to express the so called swirl movement’s belief that the White man is what the Black woman really wants. Until marriage rates increase between this demographic of people and the imagery of Black women in the media changes for the better, I don’t believe that the Black American can rely on White American men or any man as a marriage partner.

In actuality, I believe it is a good idea that more Black American women are considering interracial dating and marriage. But I don’t necessarily see it as the solution to the so called marriage crisis in the Black collective. As interracial unions increase between Black women and White men, will such unions really break down the social and racial conventions in society? Only time will tell.
















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Documentary on Heavy Metal: My assessment of the depiction of the genre

On one of the days when I am off from work, I usually watch music videos of my favorite artists or reruns of Dateline Mystery on Youtube. On my news feed, I saw a video related to Metal. The video was a few minutes long. To the side, where there were recommendations for videos. One of these recommendations was a over two hour documentary on the origins and endurance of Heavy Metal. I decided to click on the video and watched it to see how the genre came to be.

Personally, I enjoyed watching the documentary despite the video quality frizzing up during watching it. The reason for such frizzing was due to the rain outside. But I was very excited to watch and learn about how the genre came into fruition. According to the documentary, Black Sabbath were the ones that founded the sound of Metal despite speculation that Iron Butterfly‘s song, In A Gadda Da Vida, Jimmy HendrixPurple Haze, or Stephen Wolf‘s Born to be Wild spurred the sound of Heavy Metal. The guitar sound and dark sound and lyrics of Black Sabbath were discussed for it’s lasting influence on the genre. Metal came to prominence in 1970 with Black Sabbath’s self entitled debut album, Black Sabbath.  At the time, many musical critics weren’t quite receptive to the lyrics and sound of Black Sabbath due to not really understanding the message of the music. The term, Heavy Metal was coined by music critics Mike Saunders and Lester Bangs to describe the heavier music. Regardless of how musical critics viewed the music, heavier music began to catch on as more bands started to come out with heavier sound and more raunchy topics. Also discussed alongside Black Sabbath, Led Zeppelin’s influence on Metal’s sound was also dissected especially when discussing Jimmy Page’s guitar solos. To a lesser extent(according tot he documentary), Zeppelin was the main progenitor and influence on the hard sound of the genre after Sabbath.

Then the program went on. It was very exciting and interesting for me to know, because it gave me insight to the time era that these bands came from and how it affected the music they created and put out. Also bands like Led Zeppelin, KISS, AC/DCJudas Priest, Def Leppard, Iron Maiden, Motley Crue, Gun n Roses, Metallica, Dio etc were discussed for their influence on Metal. Often times, the time era and youth culture was the culprit in the bands and music that they supported and listened to.

Time periods of music

1970s-Bands like Black Sabbath, Led Zeppelin, KISS, Judas Priest, Alice Cooper and AC/DC appealed to the youth. The youth were disgruntled with the effects of the Vietnam War and the corruption in the government so they felt like such bands’ music spoke to them in an emotional level. However, music started to change in the latter half of the decade with Disco becoming prominent on the American music scene and Punk music becoming prominent on the British music scene.  Metal was losing popularity and pushed back.

1980s- Bands like Def Leppard, Iron Maiden, Motley Crue, Metallica, Dio, Scorpion, Poison, Guns n Roses gained prominence. Youth were drawn to watching music videos on MTV and enjoying the fruits of the labor post Vietnam War era. Unfortunately, the advent of MTV led to the watering down of Metal and the genre becoming more about heavy eye liner and long hair than about the music. There was a backlash against these hair Metal bands as bands like Metallica and Guns n Roses started to rise up and become popular.

1990s-Unfortunately, not many bands were scrutinized pass the 1980s except Marilyn Manson and Linkin Park. Pantera was a band that came to prominence in this era. Especially when the influence of Marilyn Manson‘s music was blamed for the two young men that caused a shooting rampage at Columbine High School in 1999.

2000s-2010s- Bands like Megadeth, Slipknot and Avenged Sevenfold are still producing and making music today. Unfortunately, the pioneers of the genre such as Sabbath have stopped touring or retired.

However, my problems with the documentary was the fact that Deep Purple wasn’t mentioned. Deep Purple was one of the bands in the 1970s and 1980s that was pivotal in influencing the sound of Heavy Metal. In fact, the Holy Trinity of ‘Hard Rock’ was Black Sabbath, Led Zeppelin, and Deep Purple. It is a shame that almost every documentary on Heavy Metal leaves this band out, because their music and influence on many bands that come after them speaks volumes about their influence on the sound of Metal. In fact, it wasn’t until a year or so ago that they were inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. It is a pity how Rock historians never give Deep Purple the credit and recognition that is due.

Another problem  I had with the documentary was the lack of distinction between Heavy Metal and Hard Rock. Often times, people group the terms together and don’t see the difference between the two. Heavy Metal is a musical style where the beat is harder and more fast pace than Hard Rock. Metal tends to be heavy riffs played on low tune guitars and the sound is more gloomy. Hard Rock is simply the harder and more aggressive playing of American blues. Many times the terms overlap, but many Metal fans can distinguish between the two. The reason why the distinction between Hard Rock and Heavy Metal was a concern of mine is due to the fact that many bands on the documentary aren’t necessarily Heavy Metal. Bands like Led ZeppelinAC/DC, and KISS were/are not Heavy Metal bands. Led Zeppelin was more of a Classic Hard blues Rock band while AC/DC was a Hard Rock band. KISS was more glam Rock than actually Hard Rock or Metal. Also Guns n Roses, Def Leppard, Van Halen, aren’t Heavy Metal bands either. Those bands are more Hard Rock. Metal bands such as Iron Maiden,  Metallica(before the Black album), Judas Priest, Motorhead, Slayer, AnthraxSlipknot, Avenged Sevenfold, Motorhead are what should be defined as such. To lump Hard Rock bands with Metal bands only confuses the viewer on the validity of such bands.

Overall, I believe that it was a good documentary. I loved how Guns n Roses’ Welcome to the Jungle was played at the end of the documentary. Watching it shed some light on how Metal came to be and the future of the genre. I am aware that there are many controversies behind the genre and not everyone likes it. But I happen to enjoy listening to the music. Though it may not be as popular as it was in the 1980s, I still appreciate listening to the likes of Metallica when I am on my break or relaxing. Needless to say, I believe Metal will always be apart of my life in good and bad times.

The Left’s twilight: My dissatisfaction with the Left

The Democratic Party and the Left wing segment of the political realm has always been the prominent viewpoint of media coverage. Much of the mainstream news outlets falsely predicted that Democratic candidate, Hillary Clinton will win the 2016 election. Many polls were released to the public expressed Clinton’s lead over Republican candidate, Donald Trump. Everyone thought she will win until Trump defeated her in the election. Since then, the downward spiral of the Democratic party has been imminent and apparent to the public while my political consciousness has slightly shifted to the center.

I am a Liberal, college student. I am for government regulation of Wall Street and small businesses, expansion of Medicaid, Medicare, Social Security and other programs for the needy and sick, women’s rights and gay marriage. Technically, I am the primary target of the Democratic Party, but I was never really a registered Democrat. I was too young to vote in the 2008 and 2012 elections, where former President Obama won both elections. I turned eighteen in 2013 and registered as an Independent to express my freedom from the two party system. But there was a time where I believed in the party and it’s ideals. I believed that the Democratic Party stood up for my ideals regarding social justice for people of all races and ensuring that the economy remain stable. My mother was a Democrat; my whole family was. I believed the mainstream media’s lies that Hillary Clinton will win and continue President Obama’s legacy in bettering the country. But something happened. Something that shook my beliefs to the core.

Donald Trump’s surprising victory shook me and the rest of the world to the core. I just couldn’t believe that he had won the 2016 election. I couldn’t get up out of bed on the ninth of November and had to force myself to get out of bed to go to school. I was upset for weeks. Why did America elect such an incompetent buffoon to the highest position in the land? I said to myself. It was all so surreal. Little did I know that, I had begun my journey of shifting political consciousness closer to the center.

Up until February 2017, I began searching and wondering why Donald Trump won the election and why the Democrats lost seats in both the House and Senate. At the time, it just didn’t occur to me why all of this was happening. I still clung to intersectional feminism and all things Black empowerment. Somehow, I believed that America had rejected equality to turn back the time where Black people sat at the back of the bus. It never occurred to me that many American were actually rejecting the ideals and ways of the Democratic Party. But an argument over Youtube on the comment section of a Breukelen Bleu video I watched changed everything. I expressed my political views in the comment section and a bunch of trolls were attacking me for my political views. Mind you, Breukelen Bleu is a Youtube and social media personality that specifically caters to the issues affecting Black women in America. I expected that my opinions would be safely protected and positively received as always. Instead, all I received was bickering and going back in forth to the point that it interfered with my studying for a Math test. I decided to delete the comment and unsubscribe from her channel. I decided to focus on doing well in College Algebra and balancing my job and school simultaneously.

It was right at the moment that I realized this lesson: identity politics doesn’t work. All this time I have been trained to believe that identity politics was the way to go, but all it does is exacerbate the problems of inequality in society. It also promotes up the charade of oppression olympics while failing to actually finding a solution to the problem. I realized that there is more to life than constantly focusing on inequalities regarding race, gender and social class. As I lifted the weight of such burdens off of my chest, I feel like I can freely assess my life and goals without the pressures of assessing everything to my background or identity.

Political correctness and a lack of cohesion of thought and unity are other reasons why I find myself growing more dissatisfied with the left. Their use of political correctness has actually alienated many Americans particularly Conservatives. I will admit that I am quite savvy in my usage of political correctness to get my point across. But I realize that political correctness only stifles creative thinking and influences those to keep their real beliefs under wraps. It is more preferable that one openly expresses their beliefs and views than hiding their views to avoid stepping on eggshells. The lack of cohesion of thought and unity among the left turns me off as well. Not many of them could find ways to resist the evils that the Trump administration will affect the working class and average American. Nor could they try to find ways to improve their party’s message or find a message that speaks to the concerns of Americans.

Ultimately, I believe the true reason why Democrats and the left are on the wane is due to the fact that their message doesn’t convene with the American people. Americans aren’t really concerned about whether or not a transgender woman should be able to use the bathroom. The average American is more concerned about the economy, healthcare, sending their children to good schools and being able to retire on a good pension. I don’t approve of Donald Trump or his administration, but if the left wants to win elections, why start connecting with what Americans truly want for themselves and the country?

Anniversary of Michael Jackson’s death

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Eight years has passed since the King of Pop, Michael Jackson died of a Propofol overdose on this very date. I watched as television appearances, music videos and memorabilia of Michael Jackson flooded the internet, TV stations and radio. I was thirteen going on fourteen at the time. I remember it all like it was yesterday. His death will and always play a role on how I view and assess the lives of musicians and performers particularly ones before my time.

Growing up, I was a fan of Michael Jackson and his music despite the fact that his musical pinnacle had long passed. My mother was a fan of his and grew up listening to the Jackson Five and followed his solo career. So she played his music around fairly often. I never really paid attention to much of the media scrutiny surrounding his molestation trial, his supposedly eccentric behavior or controversy about his children’s paternity. Once I look back on all of it, I believe that it was an attempt to discredit Michael Jackson’s accomplishments in the music industry. At some intervals, I feel for it, but I always grasped back to loving Michael Jackson and his music. From his Jackson Five Days to his solo career, I believe that his music was the soundtrack to my life.

I remember hearing news of Michael Jackson’s death like it was yesterday. I was babysitting my younger sister and brother and flipping the channels because I was bored. Then I heard that Michael Jackson was on cardiac arrest and rushed to the hospital. I saw scores of people waiting outside of the hospital where he was being treated. Though that flash from the television was brief, it is still embedded in my mind. Eventually, I did changed the channel to Fuse where there was a Kanye West video playing. My mother had come home with some groceries and Taco Bell in tow. She walked in and told me that Michael Jackson had died at age 50 from cardiac arrest. None of us believed it at first. Though I ate the food and went to bed, I couldn’t reconcile the fact that Michael Jackson had passed away until weeks later.

During that summer, I had watched enough of music videos, old television appearances and performances of Michael Jackson to last a lifetime. I started to do some more research on his life and musical accomplishments. I was more impressed by him and it made me like him even more. But what really took me by surprise was his televised memorial. I was shocked and flabbergasted to see so many industry people, family members and friends come forth to share their memories of him. These people weren’t even present when Michael Jackson was being scrutinized and put down daily by the media. So I assumed that these people were fair weather friends and acquaintances speaking about their encounters and experiences knowing and interacting with him. However what really drove me to recognize Michael Jackson’s humanity was when his then, eleven year old daughter, Paris Jackson’s speech. When she came on stage and expressed how much she loved and missed her father, I was moved to tears. It made me realize that Michael Jackson was more than just a musical icon, he was also a son, brother, uncle, and father to three children that he left behind. In spite of his talent, Michael Jackson was a mere mortal just like the rest of us.

A video of Paris Jackson’s speech at the televised Michael Jackson Memorial


Despite his untimely death on June 25th, 2009, Michael Jackson will continue to live on through his music, stories from those who knew him,  and his music videos. To me, that was the day that the world stopped and mourned the passing of such a great musical legend. Though I am still sadden by his demise, his music will always live on and he will always be alive to me……in that aspect.

Watch and enjoy

Michael Jackson’s Thriller(the video, not the album)


Michael Jackson’s Rock With You


Michael Jackson’s Bad


Michael Jackson’s In the Closet

Republicans, and Independents have more sex than Democrats


A friend of mine showed me an article about the supposed frequency of sexual activity between people of various political affiliations. I didn’t believe him, but I started to do more research. Republicans really do have more sex than Democrats while Independents have more sex than both Democrats and Republicans. Despite the differences in sexual activity between people of different political affiliations, income, educational status and background also plays a role in determining the sexual activity as well.

According to an article on the website Daily Headlines, Republicans were more likely to have sexual intercourse within a week than Democrats. Republicans were also less likely to cheat on their spouse or significant other due to higher rates of church attendance. On the other hand, Independents had more sexual intercourse per week than both Republicans and Democrats. But Independents were just as likely to cheat as Democrats. Democrats were also more likely to use condoms during sex and masturbate with sex toys. But educational attainment and socio-economic status plays a role in this disparity a well. Those who were college educated were less likely to be more sexually active during the week. And Democrats are much more likely to be college educated than Republicans and Independents. Those without a college degree were more likely to have sex on a daily basis. Independents are more likely to fall in the category of those without college degree that have sex daily more so than Democrats and Republicans.

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Another study showed that Democrats were more likely to smoke marijuana and have casual sex. Liberals tend to be more relaxed when it came to drug use for recreation as opposed to their Conservative counterparts. They were also more likely to use contraception when engaging in casual sex.  And masturbate with sex toys. Political correct media and culture heavily promotes the idea that using contraception during sex is necessary for safe sex. Views on abortion and reproduction tends to favor women’s right to choose what goes on with her body. On the other hand, Republicans were more likely to have sex in the outdoors often times without any protection. Conservatives are more likely to oppose use of contraception during sex.  Conservatives were also more likely to be religious and listen to Country music, which helps shapes their views on sex and their sexual activity. Their religious views helps support their views on abortion and contraception due to the Bible is staunch on issues regarding reproduction and sex. But the key to Conservatives’ views on sex is Country music. Many Country music songs such as Tanya Tucker’s Would You Lay With Me (In a Field of Stone) portrayed the raunchy details of sexual intercourse in the outdoors. Listening to such songs help influence these listeners on their sexual desires and ways in carrying them out.

Other studies show that Conservatives were much more satisfied with their sex life. A survey showed that more of half of Conservative Republicans reached an orgasm during sex. Only 40% of Liberal Democrats have reached a climax during sex. One study even showed that Trump supporters were more likely to have filmed themselves doing the nasty than their Liberal counterparts.

Sexual positions in bed also align with political views. Studies show that Liberals were more likely to have anal sex, oral sex and threesome and sex with strangers. They were also more likely to masturbate. Conservatives were more likely to favor fewer sexual partners and more likely to prefer the Missionary position during sex. On the other hand, those who prefer doggy style were Conservative on immigration and the death penalty but Liberal when it came to social issues such as gay marriage.

Why are Conservative Republicans more satisfied with their sex lives than Liberal Democrats?

I can’t quite pin point an answer to the question. Not everything is so black and white. People have different experiences that help shape their views on sex and sexual activity. I also believe that their environment also plays a role in helping to shape sexual views. Despite growing up in a small town in Florida, I didn’t quite understand the dating and mating rituals in my area. Girls had their first date at around age 12 and were married by age 21. Women were supposed to wait until they were married to have sex and procreate with men to have children. I grew up attending religious schools that shunned contraception, fornication(another term for sex outside of marriage) and out of wedlock births. As a result, I avoided sexual activity and sexual intercourse throughout my teens. So it was quite a surprise to me to read such adventurous dealings when it came to sex from the Conservative aisle of the political spectrum.

Then I read these studies over and over again. It all started to make sense to me. Many Conservatives are more out there with their sexual escapades, because sexuality and sexual activity was so repressed in their environments. I know this all too well. Getting an orgasm in sexual intercourse makes one feel good and whole especially in an environment that shuns such pleasure. One having fewer sexual partners is another indicator shows that one is more likely to stick with the person that they are with for sexual pleasure. It also means that one is much more likely to form a spiritual and emotional bond with a partner that has fewer sexual partners than one with multiple sexual partners. Having sexual intercourse not only involves the physical but also the spiritual and emotional. When one has sexual intercourse, they are forming an emotional and spiritual bond with that person. Once people sleep with another and then break up, it is much harder to form an emotional and spiritual bond with another lover. It is not to say that those with multiple sexual partners can’t find love or form an emotional and spiritual bond with their lovers or significant others. Of course, they can. But it is much harder. It could explain why many Conservatives are more satisfied with their sex lives than many Liberals.

At the end of the day, political affiliation doesn’t mean that determine the quality of one’s sex life. Not every Conservative is more satisfied with their sex life nor is every Liberal not getting sexed. Studies and surveys also show the opinions and livelihoods of a sample of people being interviewed. An individual Conservative may be satisfied with their sex life. So may a Liberal. In this case, the political is sexual and the sexual is political…….if only one keeps their sexual escapades and life to themselves.



























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The Nurse Nook videos

Every week or so, I would watch videos about the nursing program from a Youtuber called Nurse Nook. As a pre Nursing student, I am interested in the ins and outs of the Nursing program, because it wouldn’t be long until I am in the Nursing program, myself. At the university that I will be transferring to, I will have to complete a few more classes until I can finally apply to the Nursing program. Watching these videos actually gives me helpful insight on how it would be like to be a Nursing student in the Nursing program.


Makeup tutorials

These days, I usually watch videos on Youtube from my music from my favorite artists, travel vloggers and makeup tutorials. While I have always been interested in learning on how to apply makeup, I rarely saw Black female makeup gurus. I wasn’t really aware of them until I read an article on Divine Dark Skin magazine discussing one of Too Much Mouth‘s videos. When I watched one of her videos for the first time, I was amazed and glad to hear that a beautiful woman, that happens to be Black is giving makeup tutorials. From there on, I watched other Black female makeup gurus and was impressed to see how they put their makeup on.

Here is one of her videos